Friday, January 17, 2014

THE TRUE BEST FRIEND

I'm not like most women....duh! We all know that! Seriously, do you ever sit down and think about your close circle of friends? I can on one hand. Most people have a ton of best friends or a LOT of friends. Not me. I have my close circle of friends and that ONE true best friend. We have been friends for over 28 years! That is a long time to be able to put up with someone...especially ME!

Even though we don't live near each other anymore, we are in constant contact.

We make sure we carve out those weekends when we can spend time together. It might be hanging out at home or going on a spa retreat. Those rejuvenate me!  There is nothing like giggling with your girlfriend!

And...she even trusts me to color her hair! Dang good friend!

 Even the long months we don't see each other, we connect on Skype or Facetime!
When I was writing my first novel
CARPE BEAD 'EM, she was
reading it! In the novel, there is a
very important scene involving
silverware! My best friend went
to a vintage shop and saw this
set of silverware. She immediately
knew it was just like the one I had
made up in the novel and bought
it for me! WOW! My family
uses the cool antique silverware!
In fact, Hallie Mediate, the heroine in
CARPE BEAD 'EM is named after
my friend :)
 What about you? Do you have that amazing bond with friends? Tell me about it in the comments section! One lucky winner will get a signed copy of my novel involving girlfriends~ CARPE BEAD 'EM


**eFestival of Words 2012 Women's Fiction Winner From USA TODAY Bestselling Author Tonya Kappes**

Orphaned at a young age, Hallie Mediate was raised by her (slightly) crazy Great Aunt Grace on the wrong side of the tracks in Cincinnati. Hallie dreamed of escaping her hometown and never looking back. After putting herself through college, landing her dream job in Chicago, and starting a romance with her handsome running partner Bo Pompillio, life is finally exactly as she wants it.

That is, until she’s transferred back to the hometown. Not wanting her past to cross paths with her future, Hallie puts her relationship with Bo on hold.

When she arrives in town, Hallie finds crazy Aunt Grace rummaging through a dumpster looking for the “perfect” welcome home gift for her niece. That’s just the beginning. After that, Aunt Grace stays busy by dying her stolen poodle’s hair pink and leaving the dog on her apartment roof to pee, throwing bricks out the window at passing neighbors, and climbing every flag pole to kiss the ornamental eagle.

Hallie finds some sanity at a local jewelry-making class where she uncovers a hidden talent for beading. When her talent is discovered by a major department store jewelry buyer, Hallie realizes that what she had in Chicago might not have been her dream life after all.

When faced with the choice of moving back to Chicago and Bo or taking a leap of faith to start her own jewelry company (with Aunt Grace in tow), Hallie has to make a decision. Will she let her past and her future collide, or will she or keep searching for the happiness she may already have found?


14 comments:

  1. This is one of my favorites of all of your wonderful books! I think that my two sisters are truely my best friends. We have shared the same experience and understand where we come from.

    Andria

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  2. I have a friend, my oldest sis, and my daughter who are my best friends. (i have 3 best guy friends, too!)

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  3. I don't have a really close friend -- not sure I've ever had one. I have friends, but generally they change as we move. Hubby was career Air Force, and altho we were stationed probably 5 different places (he had 2 unaccompanied assignments as well), the ones stationed at the same places were also in transit so same people weren't constant. And now he's a United Methodist Pastor, and in 20 years, this is his 5th appointment, so again we have new people in our lives. We have maintained contact (or regained contact via facebook) with some from prior assignments & churches, but really no close friends.
    My sister is one who does have a couple of CLOSE friends, as well as a whole group of friends. One time I was commenting to a cousin about how I sometimes envied my sister for this, but that I didn't think even if we'd been stationery, I'd have had the 'close friend' personality. Cousin's answer to me was something along the line of, God knew your path in life and so he provided the personality that would be appropriate -- if you NEEDED close friends to be happy, then I would have been miserable in this life style. :)
    One has to be a good constant friend to have one, and I'm just not there. BUT I'm happy for those who are and do. :)

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  4. i just popped on over ... :) please enter me tonya thanks so much

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  5. I had some really good best friends before I moved to the Adirondacks but distance and life have gotten in the way. We used to have so much fun hanging out and doing silly things.

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  6. I have withdrawls if I do not get a daily dose of my BFF. She can make me laugh no matter the situation!

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  7. Friendship is so special. I love it when a friend from the past shows up again and things are just like they were never gone. You don't have to be near to share that special bond. Especially with facebook....smile.

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  8. i have old friends, though we dont hang together any more. but when do, its like no time has past at all

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  9. I have a very small circle of friends. My bestest friend lives far away, and has for many years. We stay in touch via FB and phone calls. Even if we go months without talking, we can pick up right where we left off, like no time has passed. She is very dear to me. My other best friend is my sister :)

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  10. My first bf passed away several years ago. He and I were very close. We would at times go months without talking because he was in the service at the time we met, and yet it didn't seem we had that gap when we saw each other. Sadly he and his fiance were in an accident. She was killed instantly, he died a few weeks later. My best friend now is my husband. We been through a lot but no matter what, always there for each out.

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  11. I have had many best friends in life, depending on where or what time in my life you look at. One of the reasons I love facebook is because it has enabled me to keep up with all of their lives. :) My best friend now is my handsome hubby. He has been for 9 years. My have been through so much together, health problems, loss of jobs, and even our home burning down. With all that, we have stayed together, the glue being our love, trust, respect and maybe even more than anything else, our ability to retain our sense of humor. :)

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  12. I have three people pop into mind when I think Best Friend. First is my friend Leah who lives in New Jersey, I live in Texas. We met when we were fourteen and have been friends ever since. Though we only see each other maybe once every couple of years and only talk a few times a year on the phone, we always pick up like we saw each other yesterday. My friend Martha lives 750 miles away from me now. She has been my closest friend and confidante since I was 15. We talk or text several times a week. Whenever anything funny or scary or sad happens in our lives, we immediately let the other one know. We will always be friends. The third person is my husband. We hit it off instantly almost 8 years ago. I told him all the stories of my life, good and bad, before we even started dating. He asked me out, moved in a week later, and we have been inseparable since. Friendship is a strong foundation for our marriage. I love him and I am still in love with him as much as I was the first moment it hit me a few weeks after meeting him. Those are my best friends. I hope they will always be my best friends. They make life wonderful!

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  13. My best friend passed away two years ago, I was with him when it happened. We had been friends and business partners since 1993. I've had many close friends in my lifetime, but no one comes close to my Tony. People assumed we were married, but romance was never in the cards for us. We both believed getting romantically involved would have ruined the perfection of our relationship.

    My daughter always marvels at how little I've grieved since he's passed, but I try to explain the basis of my exceptional relationship with Tony: everything I did was ok with him, and everything he did was ok with me. He needed to go and I completely respected that.

    That's not to say I don't miss him terribly. I miss talking to him everyday and laughing at all the crazy things he used to say. I included several of his more-common, funny adages in my novel. I didn't begin writing until after his death, so adding essences of him in the story makes me feel like he's a part of my new solo endeavor.

    I feel so blessed to have had Tony in my life. It truly was one of the biggest miracles of my life. Everyone should have such an amazing friend.

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  14. Married my best friend from high school :) I have another high school friend that I can not see for years and whenever we get together, it's just the same as always...friends.

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